relationship 101

Read a really lovely note shared out on Facebook and just wanna share it with you guys ;)

Today I had a friend ask me for some relationship advice, this is what I gave him. Maybe there is someone else who needs to hear this? 

There are only three things you need to know about a woman. 

#1. You have to know the truth of a woman. 

And this is that truth...,,

Every man she has ever loved in her life has hurt her! They have abused her verbally, physically, mentally, or emotionally! Or all the above. Because if any of them had treated her right, then she wouldn't be available for you! It's not her fault she doesn't trust you! She can't! At least not yet! 

I know that's hard to understand so I made him read a posting that I keep on my phone. 
This is what it says....

If you tell her she's beautiful, on the outside she's going to smile, probably even blush, and tell you thanks. But on the inside? She's going to think.... "How"? She's going to come up with a thousand reasons why she's not. She's going to try to convince herself that your lying, or just being nice. And eventually she will succeed. She's going to continue to believe she's not beautiful. But if you stay, and keep telling her, then maybe, eventually, she might just start believing! 

And that means so much more than what it says.... but it's so true! At this point, most women have forgotten how to fall in Love. Remember when you were 16 and in Love! That's Love! Deep down you might know its not gonna last, but no one in the world could convince you that it's not gonna last forever! Remember how awesome that was? That's all she wants! That's all she needs! She wants to give her whole self to someone! Someone she just craves like an addiction! So how do you get her to feel that way about you? Well that's number two!

#2. Make her feel wanted! 

All she wants from you is..... YOU! She wants you to want her! Only her! Never stop doing the things that made her fall in Love with you! Most people get lazy or content in a relationship! So they stop doing the little things. But it's those little things that build Love! A smile from across the room just because you caught a glimpse of her. Stare at her like you used to, and when she says "what", tell her how beautiful she is! I mean you tried so hard to get her... So Try even harder to keep her! It only takes five seconds to say thanks, or I Love you Babe! And you know what? Sometimes saying nothing means so much more than you could ever say! Make her feel it! Stop her mid sentence with a kiss! A real kiss! Or brush the hair from her eyes as you stare into them! Hold her hand just because you want to! And never ever forget, the more you give, the more you get back! 

I've Loved, and I've lost Love! And it makes me so sad to see people fall out of Love! I see so many relationships fail because people are scared! Scared of failure! They're afraid of letting themselves be judged by someone else! So when they start dating someone, it's all fake! They pretend to be someone they're not, just to impress! But then they wander why it didn't last, or what they've done wrong! I hear people say all the time, "well you've just changed". No! You just stopped pretending! And your not that person you made them fall in Love with! You never were! So I'll say that number three is probably the most important one of all.....

#3. Be who you really are!

Never pretend! And know this.... You can never really Love someone, if you can't Love yourself! You have to Love the heart your trying to give, If you want them to Love "all of you", then you have to give them "all of you" to Love!

Kuantan With Love

So basically this was a project that I had to do to pass my Malaysian studies. Believe me when I tell you it is the stupidest piece of coconut subject that I actually NEED TO PAY to sit for. And I thought Pendidikan Moral a.k.a Moral studies back in form 5 is ridiculously stupid enough but MS wins it all (because I was forced to pay RM500 for it) oh wait! I still have Moral studies (again!) to take which will cost me another RM500 in a few months time *banging the head on the wall*.

However I met a group of amazing people in my life because of this stupid subject and they gave me so much laughter during the period of time I was with them. ^^ Their company was definitely something I will miss and am missing right now :)

So yea, going for a study trip on our own was part of the requirement to pass the paper and we chose to go to Kuantan which is around 3 hours drive from KL.

I have never been to Kuantan before, so it was definitely something exciting and the fact that we drove there (okay, they drove there, I just sit) gave us much more freedom to do things.

the driver and co-driver (are'nt they sweet ;)

We stopped at Sungai Lembing before heading to the city. Sungai Lembing is... Lets just say it is a very 'natural' place. Once you are there, the air is cleaner, people are nicer and ever the sky was filled with stars during the night time. It was beautiful and almost enchanting when I looked up the sky~

LOOK! its a deer and we are not even in a zoo!

Until we saw this. T.T 

(Deer meat curry puff)

Went to a tin mine which is some famous tourist location actually cause I actually saw them advertise it on rapid KL tv. lol. It was rather exciting when we went in cause we sat on this train like thingy that the miner used to use but basically it was just a really long and deep cave. lol. Did'nt see any tin though. It was just a really long walk. lol.

Pulling a 20kg weight like a boss~ lol. Look at JF's epic expression.

Next we went to this place known as crystal house. I was actually hoping to see shiny bling bling crystals but well, they are'nt like how i expected it to be at all. lol. The uncle who build this crystal house was once a miner or something and he told us that he did'nt know what these 'rocks' were when he first discovered them and then he knew what it is and well, WALAH~

crystals? Go figure.

The most heart attack moment was crossing this really long bridge that made out of planks and to be told that the bridge was actually broken and repaired recently did not help. Mind you, I was not afraid of the height but I CAN'T SWIM! While we were crossing it, gazillion motorcycle will cross the bridge as well and each time it passed us by, my heart stopped for a second there.

scary shaky bridge, CONQUERED! 

We stayed at a homestay 'bungalow' place which has the total kampung feel. The chingyus were just really fun and entertaining people. Such joy to be part of the group :)

Next morning we went to the famous RAINBOW WATERFALL! Basically you sit at the back of a Hilux and the tour guide will drive you up the hill and then you have to jungle trek for another 45 minutes or so to reach the waterfall. The ride was damn awesome because we were singing songs and flirting with other strangers who were sitting in another car. LOL. and THEY RESPONDED! wtf. haha

Good luck to you when muddy water splash on your face and good luck to your butt too.

The jungle trekking part was very thrilling because you get to cross river where the depth was basically up to your chest? I was just super worried that some leeches decided to have me as their lunch the whole time because I wanna defend my title of never been bitten by leeches before! You have no idea how many medication I bought a day before to ensure that. lol

tHE CHINGYUS!

random picture of us when we are not in mud or dirty water.

I love the fresh air that you inhale throughout the adventure and honestly, you won't feel tired at all and when you see the waterfall and experience the water splashing down on your body, it was GREAT! able to see the rainbow made the adventure even more worth it. I must say, we had a very good and entertaining tour guide the whole time!

Left Sg. Lembing and went to Kuantan. I think Sg. Lembing is part of Kuantan??? Overall we left and went to the city!

It is a must to have SEAFOOD IN KUANTAN! oh gawd the food was good I could die! Later on a stroll at Teluk Cempedak which is some tourist hot spot as well for some jelly ice~! 

DROOLING YET?

the seafood restaurant is facing the sea ^^ If i am not wrong, the restaurant is call PAK SU! try it if you have a chance.

Teluk Cempedak nightlife~

surong photobomb! haha

Went for this 'kopitiam' style shop for breakfast the next day and apparently it's some famous shop and they have a branch in Kelantan/Terengganu (I dun remember). The food was sooooo good!

Tried batik painting on our own and I must say, I DO NOT HAVE ANY ARTISTIC SENSE.  Even some of the guys' painting was better than mine T.T

I must say, ugliest drawing ever. lol. 

can you guess which is mine? 

Left Kuantan and first thing we do is to have dinner at Mid Valley. Suddenly the bright lights, concrete jungle and franchises are all back. lol.

It was really nice to leave the city and enjoy some time with mother nature once in awhile~ Never really a city girl anyway.

P.S I MISS YOU ALL OF YOU!

OKAY.... so maybe #wickham is right, I don't smile in my pictures. lol.

Present to you:

kher jia, set teng, sheuelee, surong and melody is probably bathing. lol and me with that fat things T.T

TOODLES~finals in a couple of days time!

law ball 2013

I guess its a thing for law faculty from around the world to have #lawball rather weird isnt it? lawball.. lawball.. lawball.. lawball.. okay maybe it actually sounds decent but my mind is corrupted or not. Im so bored of studying for my finals and have nothing to blog about, so i guess the 'happening' thing that actually did occurred since GDA would be law ball which is like aeon years ago as well. FML. 

So this year, it was held at Renaissance Hotel which is like some fancy 5 stars hotel in KL and located at the heart of KL. The theme is VINTAGE/CLASSIC. Thinks 60s'  sort of idea!

 Polaroids of that night

Finding something to wear was a pain in the arse but since I am poor and these pictures won't be found in any PAGE 6, i just wore my RM50+ dress that I bought more than a year ago from seventh-day blogshop. Did my own hair and make-up. Such cheapo. heh~

The only thing that matches the theme was the pearls jewellery

and basically thats about it! OH and the red lipstick ;)

The hotel was indeed a very beautiful venue to held the event and I think the team did every well in organizing it. kudos to my peers.

The performance was entertaining and one of my dear friend Kerina performed her ballet. So jealous of people who can actually dance. All I can do is act as a guy and pee on stage during sketch competition.

Kerina in her ballet costume

When I stepped in, I was like my gawd, why everyone look so atas and god knows how much they spent. Felt so out of place! but the ticket that I have to pay for already cost me to sell my blood to get the money T.T Overall, the guys looked dashing in suits and the ladies looked stunning in gown 

My beautiful ladies

Norah on the left and Kerina on the right

Amber, Winnie and hello~

Initially I did'nt want to go cause I don't have the money and I was'nt in the mood for some fancy event and initially i was dateless as well. Imagine the thought of me getting a cab to there ALONE in high heels and long dress. *jump off building*

HEH! but in the end, out of no where, I got myself a date! heh! >:D Okay initially I had a date but later I got dumped by him :'( So, the universe decided to send someone else instead to save the poor little girl who got dumped. lol.

Meet the date.

Honestly, i guess the most fun part was when we crashed people's wedding which was held right beside our event. haha. I personally have a soft spot for weddings regardless of who the bride and groom are. I just find it so beautiful that two person can find each other out of billions of people, vow to love each other and spend the rest of their lives with each other. Isn't it so beautiful? 

Cause I personally think it requires so much courage and strength to say "I DO" cause we are talking about the rest of our lives here man. Even the idea of saying 'yes' to enter into a relationship is like OMG big deal for me. What more in marriage? 

Fong and me

Me and SherRen

I had my actual first SLOW dance with my date, dancing to 'DON'T LOOK BACK IN ANGER' (well, isn't exactly the most romantic song but hey, its a good song!) which I think we were like awkward turtles. LOL. #NO.1REASONWHYIDONTCLUB I have no rhythm in my body lol. If i can't dush dush to music, what more slow dance. However, it was fun to try new things ^^

My very swag Criminal lecturer. Look at the tattoo heh heh!

Adrian Bian Acho! HAHA. just like saying his full name ;) My neighbour!

It was indeed such beautiful night at the heart of the city and I will cherish the memories of that night.  Prolly this will be the last time I ever go to one. IDK. we shall see.  

My country, My love

A post to remember GE13 by. 

To those who knows me personally would know that I love my country very very much. Actually I love Ipoh very very much and eventually the love grew to every part of Malaysia. My affection for Ipoh is pretty much needy and disgusting cause I love it so much till I rather stay and do form 6 than go live a college life like most sane teenagers would. I will sob every time I see IPOH's big ass sign when I am coming home from KL and inhale deeply when I am in midst of Ipoh air. You can say it's like as though I just parted from my boyfriend for years and I finally get to see him. 

If New York is Carrie's boyfriend, then I would say Ipoh is my man. 

I came back from KL (I am still trying to love KL so that I can love Malaysia as a whole wth) to cheer for Perak during GE13. Many people asked me am I voting, I say noooo.... and they would say why bother going back? Like I say, Ipoh is my man... I need to be by his side. 

I was very certain, very sure that Perak would not fall into the hands of icantevenmentiontheirdisgustingname,BN because the opposition did win over Perak in GE12 but few frogs hopped over and well, we all know what happened. With all the coconut BN did in the previous election, I was certain that the Perakians would work even harder to make sure they don't stand a chance. 

I guess our dearest government must have thought "HEH! you think buying people over with money is the lowest we can go? Wait till you see our magic show!"

Seeing Perak fall into the hands of slaptheirface was probably the most heartbreaking moment for me cause it was like seeing your man being taken away by some slut. T.T

Malaysia has been a great country to be in. I love every bits of what make Malaysia the way it is but NNNOOOOOO TO CORRUPTED GOVERNMENT, RACISM, AND DISCRIMINATION! All these are making Malaysia to rot from the inside. I feel so devastated even up to this point but I have not giving up one bit. Egypt, Indonesia, China, US and many other countries  have given me hope and I hope it gives hope to other Malaysian as well.  We can make a change! Every time when I see a post on FB saying 'I am going to leave Malaysia', 'gonna get PR and flee' and etc really disappoint I suppose not just me but the Pakatan Rakyat politicians as well. 

If you are disappointed and devastated, think about their feelings. This is probably the first time ever for most people to be ever concern about the country and guess what, these people have fought for gazillion years and even they have not given up. You think it is easy to be in their position? Going against the government and lead the rakyat to a better future is not an easy job.

I always question myself to whether will I ever have the strength to become one but I know that if my husband ever want to do something for the country, I will stand by him through it all. Woman like Wan Azizah Wan Ismail and Betty Chew inspire me through their work in supporting their husband especially when their husband went to jail for something they did'nt do and juggle between both family and country while the husbands were not around. 

I am very thankful to have parents who exposed me to politics and got me interested at the age of 16 during the 2008 election. My mom keep telling me and the people who were disappointed and at the verge of giving up that Sun Yat-sen took so many years to overthrow the Qing Dynasty and he did'nt give up. Why are we?

I was very upset because I myself am very tired to be a second class citizen. I am very upset that there is such thing as kuota system and I am very upset that I was taught to love everyone regardless of colour and race but yet the government makes it really hard to do so cause they themselves promote racism. I love Malaysia and wish that my children will love Malaysia just as much as I do. I wish that they would tell me they want to stay in Malaysia because they believe Malaysia has a good job prospect and it feels like home.

I thought, if opposition win this time, then 5 years later I will be 26! By that time the government should be able to make Malaysia a better place and I do not need to worry that if I bring a child to this world, he or she will be hated and discriminated for who he/she is. She/He will be able to feel secure in his/her own country. I don't want my generation to be taught that to win, you need to lie, cheat and be corrupted. 

As a law student, it's very sad to hear that our judiciary is all mess up and to win, it all depends on either how much you can pay or what colour you are. Many lawyers told me that judiciary in Malaysia is hopeless and ask me to quit law school. LOL. Well, that is not gonna happen unless he pays me back my school fees but even so, I will not quit. 

I have very good friends who are chinese, Indian and Malays. I attend Open house on all occasions and that is one of the beautiful reason to why I love Malaysia. If we rakyat can learn to love one another they why you as a government can't? Look at BERSIH 2.0! Malay, Chinese and Indians all were present to show BN how much we as the rakyat are piss off at how they are ruining our country. NOT JUST CHINESE OKAY?! 

IS IT SO WRONG TO ASK FOR A GOVERNMENT WHO CARES FOR THE NATION?

Stop making MALAYSIA BANKRUPT! STOP TAKING MONEY AND PUT IT INTO YOUR BANK ACCOUNT OR ON ROSMAH'S FINGER!

How can you tell us how good you are after everything that has been exposed and made known?! THE COW INCIDENT! ARE YOU KIDDING ME BRO? they don't even try hard to deny it!

I don't even wanna talk about what MAGIC SHOW was performed during counting. If I go on, I might just fail my criminal paper. T.T till then cheerios~

The Samsung Golden Disk Awards Day 2

GET YOUR CRAYON!! GET YOUR CRAYON!! meori eokkae mureup bal swag check swag check ~ ;)

Second day was basically mind as well call it the GD DAY! ^^ My oppa rock the house okay :) 

This time around me and Shireen not so stupid di... don't wanna squeeze with people and decided to chill and go later.

#selca before leaving hotel :)

smart decision till we realize they let us go to a more front area for rockpit ticket holders T.T BUT still not bad lah from where we stand :)

Unfortunately due to Day 1, my camera battery was extremely limited and could not charge in time for Day 2 so I basically save the battery for the ONE OF A KIND dragon~

Second day was mainly girl groups compare to day 1 so you can actually more namjas on that day than Day 1. 

My heart skip a beat when I saw JiYongchy before my eyes during red carpet session. T.T so happy to see him after all the crap that I was going through. It was like seeing a bright sunshine after running in the jungle for days filled with darkness. oppa~

It seems like majority people who went for the second was for G Dragon alone including guys cause people were like sitting and relaxing but once they heard the name GD, they will jump up and try to get a glimpse of the dragon.

The stage is still so beautiful as ever and even better, there was a rainbow above us ^^

I know I did'nt take many pictures, in return... there are two videos below for the two days :) quality not that good when i combine them IDKW. :(

Seeing GD once again before my eyes since Big Bang concert and this time even nearer was like I CAN'T EVEN! He lights me up like a fireworks. Being an amazing friend, I called Eva when GD was performing so that she can hear his voice and feel the atmosphere through the phone cause I know she would die to be there as well if given a choice. 

It was the best time ever and to be part of something so significant means so much to me! GD performance was the finale and obviously the ultimate highlight of the day. CINCAH DAEBAK!! 

I think PSY was suppose to be the Finale and the superstar of the day but then he could not show up. However, he send a video apologizing. How sweet of him. See, the humbleness of all k-pop star. YB NG YEN YEN actually got to be the one presenting the award for PSY and GD took it on behalf of PSY. My face changed immediately after I saw that scene of her and my GD standing side by side. *chills~*

Just wanna thank NUFFNANG & DIGI once again for such wonderful experience!

 **videos do click ON HD for better quality**

anyeong~